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What Is Self Sabotage And How Can Hypnotherapy Help?

Self-sabotage is one of the most common underlying causes for the many problems and difficulties that clients face, when seeking my help. Hypnotherapy, NLP and Solution-Focused Psychotherapy are powerful tools that can resolve self-sabotage and the problems that can result.

What is self-sabotage?

Self-sabotage is any behaviour that you engage in, consciously or unconsciously, that harms you or undermines the achievement of your goals. It’s the part of you that keeps smoking when you want to quit, when you feel undeserving of that job promotion or opportunity, watching hours of TV when you have an exam the next day or wallowing in self pity after eating too much when you want to get fit or lose weight.

Apart from doing something counter productive to a goal, self-sabotage can also mean failing to do what is needed perhaps because it’s difficult, boring, uncomfortable or painful. Accepting unhelpful beliefs about yourself, indulging in destructive emotions and simply not being the best that you can be are all forms of self-sabotage.

How do we become self-saboteurs?

Typically people that regularly self-sabotage have very low self esteem and self worth. Often self-saboteurs were abused in some way as children; emotionally through neglect or manipulation, or some form of physical or sexual abuse. Self image and self esteem form at a very young age in the unconscious mind and so having a healthy association of ourselves means we have better emotional health as children and then adults. Our self image forms in response to our interactions with our parents or main care givers and we model ourselves on their behaviour and how they treat themselves and us. This can either be healthy or unhealthy depending on whether we receive love, affection, concern and tenderness versus anger, violence, detachment, criticism and impatience.

Having a healthy self esteem and self image means honouring yourself and your self worth and recognising that you are deserving of love, attention and respect. It also means accepting that failure or being outside your comfort zone is a part of learning, even if it may be unpleasant. A lack of one or more of these things can lead to a number of symptoms of self-sabotage such as:

  • Obsessive perfectionism
  • Overwhelming negative self talk
  • Always putting others needs ahead of your own
  • Excessive procrastination and giving up on goals
  • Chronic low self esteem and lack of confidence
  • A struggle to overcome setbacks and low moods
  • Harmful addictions and other forms of self harm

How can I help?

Self-sabotage and internal conflict often underlies so many of the issues and reasons that clients come to see me and so the combined efforts of Hypnotherapy, NLP and Solution Focussed Therapy are great tools to resolve this. I help clients focus their attention on conscious and unconscious patterns that stop them doing what they want, leaving behind outdated beliefs and behaviours, allowing them to develop much better strategies, ultimately developing far healthier self esteem and feelings of self worth.

So for a confidential discussion and an initial free consultation contact me and take your first step.

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